Posted By Sarah Sweeney on December 6, 2018
Women get lied to a lot. Corporations and marketers know that women are more likely than men to take care of themselves and make purchasing decisions. It’s not that women are more susceptible than men to bogus health claims, it’s just that women are literally bombarded with them in ways that men are not. Ladies are aggressively targeted with emotionally charged claims about their health, fitness and well-being.
These lies number in the thousands, but there are a few that continue to make the rounds that have literally no science to back them up and a flat-out detrimental to any goals of legitimate success in reaching your goals, changing your health status and improving your life. Many of these ideas focus on being politically correct. But the reality is that they are creating a false sense of security that will leave you unfulfilled and looking for another quick fix.
PC LIE # 1: “Body Love” is crucial. You should praise yourself every time you look in the mirror.
Do this instead: Love effort, love achievement, and stop being so self-absorbed.
“Body Love” is a term used mainly by people who fixate on their bodies, feel like crap about their bodies, and then broadcast to the world the exact opposite. They want you to believe that THEY believe every dimple and crevice of their flesh is attractive, so they’ve created a movement to make it socially acceptable.
Talking about how much you love your body means you’re probably trying to convince yourself of something you really don’t believe. The problem isn’t a lack of self-love; it’s a lack of effort, action, progress, and fulfilment… and overwhelming self-obsession. “Body Love” is code for this self-obsession. It’s forced narcissism, which is now encouraged and applauded these days. It’s ultimately a shiny object, distracting you from addressing real issues and having your needs met on a deeper level.
Insecurity and narcissism aren’t really opposites. They’re both the result of fixating on yourself too much and feeling a lack of significance. “Body Love” has become a socially acceptable way to broadcast that fixation and try to gain significance in the public arena.
THE ALTERNATIVE TO PRETEND “BODY LOVE”: ACHIEVEMENT AND PROGRESS IN A MEANINGFUL WAY
Need a self-esteem boost? Do something worthy of esteem. Do work that improves your life and that of those around you. Choose something hard, uncomfortable, and outside your current skill set. Put yourself in a situation where you must suck for a while because it’s that difficult.
This is especially valuable for those with body image issues. Why? Because when you try something for the first time you’re going to have to focus on the craft rather than yourself. This will give your mind a reboot. As you become more competent, you’ll develop REAL satisfaction, not the contrived, “I love myself for being me” bullshit. That stuff is a facade, plus nobody believes you when you say it.
Achievement always trumps words. And learning to do a new skill when you’re surrounded by people better than you is a reminder of what you CAN achieve with the right work ethic. Just get your mind off yourself. Connect. Make actual friends, and not the kind who are also insecure narcissists because they’ll convince you that “Body Love” is good, but only because they’re in the same situation – totally compensating for a belief that’s not there.