Can you say with complete certainty that you give your significant other the same energy and effort you give your training or prep?
Bodybuilding and Powerlifting are selfish endeavors, that often result in leaving the competitors other half on the back burner.
On a day to day basis recount the effort you put into a single day of training. Preparing your meals, making sure all of your pre/Intra/post workout supplements are perfectly measured, writing and planning training, all things that are done BEFORE the training. You’ve put this much effort just in the preparation.
Now move into the actual session, the warmups, the top sets, the mobility work, posing, cardio. Do you do anything halfway or short of 100% absolutely not! Because you know that anything less than giving your all could result in falling short of your goal.
Now imagine you put that much effort into your relationship or marriage. What if you meticulously thought out and planned days with your spouse? What if you were as interested in your partners day to day life as you are in the pump your going to get or the PR you’re going to set.
Most of our partners don’t share the same passions we have and that’s okay. My wife will probably never step foot on a powerlifting platform to compete, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to know about my training or my prep. We create this idea that just because or partner doesn’t do the things we do they don’t care about it. Wrong, they may not care about the sport of bodybuilding but they love you and support you. They don’t want to be left out, they want to be a part of it and they care more than you know. Don’t make competition a seperate part of your life, make it a part of your relationship.
When strength stalls on squat or bench, do you just stop trying to get stronger? If the program you’ve been following is no longer allowing you to progress to you keep doing the exact same thing hoping that it will just magically get you stronger? No.
Squats used to grow your quads like crazy in your 20’s, now your creeping on 40 and age is taking its toll. You can no longer squat due to injury and pain. Does that mean you stop trying to grow or maintain your quads? No.
In both of those examples we as athletes will tirelessly search to find the answer often times through frustrating trial and error. But ultimately our effort and persistence prevail, we set that PR, we add the mass to our legs.
But for some reason we think that this same mentality doesn’t apply to our marriages and relationships! You aren’t the same people you were when you first got together. People grow and adapt and change as the years pass. Same as our bodies do. Our partners see the effort that we put into our passions. Start putting PR level effort into your relationships and see where it takes you with your partner.